How To Listen To Your Intuition In Relationships And Make Better Decisions

Knowing how to listen to your intuition in relationships will save you lots of drama and waste of time. Here are some tips to keep your head above water and alert in your relationship.

Before we proceed, here is a video by Caramel Chic on how to listen to your intuition in relationships.

How To Listen To Your Intuition In Relationships

Our intuition is smarter and faster than our rational or cognitive mind. It is ever-knowing, processing information, and delivering in seconds without any thought, or so we think.

Intuition tells us a lot about our environments, and happenings in our lives and tries to communicate to us in natural ways to get us out of danger or at least, to bring our attention to it.

It is an inbuilt alert system possessed by every human. In relationships, intuition will signal you when something is going wrong or about to go wrong.

For instance, it finds ways to alert you when your partner is cheating or is about to make a decision that will affect you negatively. This is why you should understand how to listen to your intuition in relationships.

Why you should listen to your intuition in your relationship

The relationship is one of the places it is hard to take decisions, especially when you are trying to be sure you are not making a mistake.

Your partner or partner-to-be might be showing signs of perfection but your intuition does not want to relax yet.

It is always good to see through the charisma, the goodness, and all of the antics people put up to hoodwink others into accepting or believing them.

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With intuition, you will be able to carefully scrutinize every detail in your relationship and have a clear, skeletal situation to inform your decision.

Without it, you will blunder blindly and at the mercy of the scheming humans who are only after their interest.

Listening to your intuition to delay things might be so conflicting with the signals you get that taking a decision becomes herculean.

To listen to your intuition, you must ignore or better still, control the strong obtrusive signal your rational mind is giving you.

It’s only in the absence of the noise you are able to know clearly what your intuition says.

Knowing how to listen to your intuition in relationships also helps you know when to eventually take a walk from your relationship when you discover unbearable things.

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Signs you’re ignoring your intuition

Man listening to his intuition in a relationship

Relationships are expected to be too good, and when they seem to be, we seldom entertain any thoughts or reports that do not align with the fantasy we are enjoying.

We ignore our intuitions and relegate them to the background. But we might pay the price sooner or later. Here are signs you are ignoring your intuition:

  • You shut down negative thoughts
  • You play down your partner’s bad behaviours with the hope they will change
  • You pretend to be happy because you are avoiding the reality
  • You avoid taking risks, even when they seem healthy
  • You are having sleep disorder but are not willing to make any changes
  • You get into trouble often
  • Your decisions always seem to be the wrong ones

How to pay attention to your intuition in your relationship

Paying attention to intuition keeps man and woman in relationship at alert

Listening to your intuition requires skill and practice. Though we are aware of our intuition most times it sends us a strong message, there are other messages we don’t take notice of because it is not a dire situation.

Here are ways to listen to your intuition in relationships and stay on top of the situation:

1. There is always a red flag, recognize and don’t ignore it

Before we experience any negative situation, our intuition must have tried to communicate with us, but we mostly ignore it out of ignorance or we pay too much attention to the noise.

When in a relationship, always look into every move of your partner, not to judge them or stalk them, but to be attentive and abreast of situations so you know when a message is coming.

Related: Why Women’s Intuition Is More Powerful Than That Of Men

If your intuition says your partner-to-be is cheating, or paints him or her in any other negative light, investigate it, clandestinely though.

A little investigation and knowledge could save you from imminent and unnecessary harmful situations.

Investigating here does not mean confronting your partner or starting a fight, but paying attention and recognizing cues, and confirming them.

2. Random thoughts

Random thoughts dropping into our minds is a direct way your intuition communicates with us.

Recognizing this thought and acting on it is another way to know how to listen to your intuition in relationships.

Your intuition is your companion and serves as a guide to things you might not have thought about in your relationship.

A thought can drop into my mind about your relationship out of the blue and it is a valuable thought.

It might be a clue to a solution you have been looking for or a different perspective entirely.

3. Don’t ignore physiological signals

There are signs we experience when all is not well in our lives. Our intuition tries to alert us to take caution or take cover.

Having observable discomfort or changes in your body could be a sign. It could come in the form of goosebumps, sweating, tightening in the chest, or the core gut feeling.

Your intuition is trying to communicate with you and you should listen.

4. Keep your mind open

An open mind that holds no resistance is a fertile ground for intuition.

While being in love is obsessive and you don’t want to feel or even believe anything negative about your partner, you should keep your mind open.

Keeping your mind open means accepting anything including negative reports about him or her and carefully scrutinizing the facts.

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This does not mean you should act immediately, having this information will help you listen to your intuition in your relationships when the cues come.

When you keep your heart open for positive reports, you are biased and won’t get the best analysis.

5. Be ready to hear the worst

When you prepare your mind for the worse, you know how to listen to your intuition.

Most times, our intuition seems to only be alerting us on the imminent negative situations which we might not want to hear, so we try to shut that channel.

But it’s for your own good to receive the information no matter how bad it is. It is better to be forearmed than to be a victim.

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You should be ready to hear the worst when you are in a relationship. You might be a good person to your partner and have sacrificed a lot to keep the union.

But it takes two people to be in a relationship. It requires effort from both ends.

When the effort is one-sided, it only depends on time before the cracks become visible.

Being ready for a breakup at any given time is the ultimate way to listen to your intuition and not live in denial.


Knowing how to listen to your intuition in relationships might be your greatest relationship skill to keep you out of unwanted situations.

A relationship is one of the best places to use and trust intuition because we are always beclouded by emotions.

We don’t want to hear any negative things about our partner because it comes in the way of our beautiful fantasy.

But it is worth it to get your head out of the sand and begin to pay attention to your intuition and gain insight.

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